Sex work isn’t new. What is new is how society talks about it and, thankfully, the growing number of people listening to sex workers instead of speaking over them. Stigma, laws, and cultural attitudes still make life harder than it needs to be for many people in the industry. But here’s the good news: you don’t need to be a politician or a full-time activist to help.
Sometimes it’s the little things everyday choices, language shifts, small acts of support that add up. Whether you’re a client, a friend, or just someone who wants a kinder world, here are 100 ways you can make life a little easier for sex workers.
1. Ask people what terms they prefer.
Language matters, especially in stigmatized jobs. A simple “what term do you like me to use?” can go a long way in showing respect. It’s such an easy question, yet it communicates that you care about their dignity and individuality. Just like asking someone how to pronounce their name, it’s about making sure they feel seen.
2. Stick with “sex worker” when unsure.
This term is neutral, widely accepted, and avoids stereotypes or slurs. It covers different parts of the industry without making assumptions about what someone does. If you aren’t certain, this word is safe, professional, and shows respect. A little thoughtfulness in language makes all the difference.
3. Don’t casually use words like “whore” or “hooker.”
Unless someone specifically reclaims those words for themselves, they can be deeply offensive. Reclaimed language belongs to the person using it it isn’t yours to adopt. For many, these words carry years of stigma and shame. If kindness is the goal, leave them out.
4. Avoid racialized slang if it isn’t your culture.
Terms that come from Black or queer communities aren’t trendy buzzwords they carry history and meaning. When people outside those communities borrow them, it can feel like erasure. What seems funny or casual to you may be painful to others. Respect the origins and leave those words where they belong.
5. Don’t assume one sex worker represents all.
There’s no single “sex worker experience.” The industry is diverse, shaped by race, gender, location, and personal choice. Listening to one person’s story is valuable, but it doesn’t give you the whole picture. Hold space for the differences instead of generalizing.
6. Understand “prostitute” isn’t always OK.
For some workers it’s a precise description, for others it’s a painful slur. You can’t always know how someone feels about the term unless they tell you directly. To avoid harm, it’s best not to use it at all. Choosing respectful language costs nothing.
7. Try person-first language when appropriate.
Saying “a person who does sex work” puts humanity first, before occupation. It can feel clunky, but for some, it’s kinder. In an industry where people are often dehumanized, small shifts like this matter. Words can either open doors or close them.
8. Respect pronouns at all times.
It’s one of the simplest forms of respect, yet one of the most important. Misgendering someone especially a trans or non-binary sex worker can feel like erasure. The least you can do is use the words they tell you to use. It’s basic decency.
9. Don’t joke about their job.
What feels like harmless banter to you can sting deeply. Jokes that reduce people to stereotypes reinforce shame and stigma. If you wouldn’t joke about a teacher’s, doctor’s, or nurse’s job, why is this different? Respect isn’t optional.
10. Keep online messages professional.
Uninvited sexual comments can get someone’s account flagged or banned, which threatens their income. What you see as playful might risk their livelihood. Think before you type boundaries online matter as much as in real life. A little restraint keeps everyone safe.
11. Learn the difference between sex work and trafficking.
Sex work is consensual, trafficking involves coercion. Mixing the two erases the agency of people who choose this job. Educating yourself about this distinction helps fight stigma. Clear understanding is a powerful form of allyship.
12. Read sex workers’ own writing.
Don’t let movies or sensationalized articles shape your perception. Many workers write blogs, books, and social posts about their realities. These firsthand accounts are richer and more honest than stereotypes. Listen to them, not just to outsiders speaking for them.
13. Question sensational trafficking stories.
Scare tactics are often used to push harmful policies. While trafficking is real, not every dramatic headline reflects reality. Sensationalism often harms workers by fueling criminalization. Before you share, ask yourself: who benefits from this narrative?
14. Don’t reduce workers to victims or fantasies.
They are not helpless, nor are they mythical beings. They are human beings with ordinary lives, struggles, and joys. Putting them on either extreme strips them of humanity. See the person, not the stereotype.
15. Respect boundaries around personal questions.
Just because someone is open doesn’t mean you can ask everything. Everyone deserves privacy, especially outside of work. Imagine being asked invasive questions about your job at a dinner table it’s draining. Give people the same courtesy you’d want.
16. Don’t ask for free “how to get into sex work” advice.
Workers aren’t career coaches for curious strangers. Do your own research first. If someone chooses to share tips, that’s their gift not your right. Respect their time and boundaries.
17. Stop sending random sugar-dating questions.
It’s unfair to treat workers as free consultants for your dating life. Messages like “how do I get a sugar daddy?” clog inboxes and waste time. Unless someone offers a coaching service, don’t expect them to guide you. It’s their work, not your playground.
18. Don’t tag workers in traumatic news.
If something bad happens to someone in the industry, chances are the community already knows. Forcing people to relive trauma by tagging them is cruel. If you want to help, donate to funds or push for safety reforms. Sharing grief isn’t support.
19. Report harassment and fake accounts.
Trolls and impersonators are more than a nuisance they can be dangerous. Reporting them is an easy way to stand up for workers’ safety. Think of it as digital bystander intervention. A minute of your time can mean real protection.
20. Follow safety protocols without question.
If a worker asks you to communicate in a certain way, do it. These rules exist because experience taught them what’s safe. Ignoring them disrespects boundaries and puts people at risk. Safety isn’t negotiable.
21. Pay promptly and fairly.
This should go without saying, but it still needs repeating. A worker’s time and labor deserve the same respect as anyone else’s. Don’t haggle, don’t delay pay what you agreed, when you agreed. Money is part of the agreement, not a favor.
22. Don’t try to negotiate prices down.
If you can’t afford someone’s rates, don’t book them. Bargaining is disrespectful and devalues their work. You wouldn’t haggle over a doctor’s fee don’t do it here either. Respect the rate or move on.
23. Don’t ask for freebies.
Sex work is work, not charity. Asking for “special treatment” undermines the value of what someone does. It’s the same as asking a lawyer for free consultations. If you want the service, pay for it.
24. Respect deposits.
Many workers require deposits to protect themselves from cancellations. Don’t argue, don’t demand exceptions just accept it as part of doing business. A deposit shows commitment and keeps both parties accountable. Think of it as standard professional practice.
25. Don’t waste time with “maybe” bookings.
Workers plan their schedules around clients. Flaky behavior costs them income. If you’re not sure, don’t book until you are. Respect their time as much as your own.
26. Be on time.
Showing up late eats into the time you paid for and disrupts schedules. If you’re running behind, communicate clearly. Courtesy goes a long way in maintaining trust and respect. Time really is money in this job.
27. Cancel respectfully and early.
Life happens, but last-minute cancellations can hurt income. Give as much notice as possible. Respect goes both ways communicate honestly. Being considerate makes a stressful situation easier.
28. Never ghost.
Disappearing without explanation wastes someone’s time and energy. If you change your mind, just say so. Ghosting is immature and unprofessional. A short message is always better than silence.
29. Don’t pressure for discounts.
Asking for “special prices” is just another form of disrespect. Rates exist for a reason, and pushing for exceptions implies the work isn’t valuable. If the rate isn’t right for you, politely walk away. Boundaries are there to be respected.
30. Tip when you can.
A tip isn’t mandatory, but it’s appreciated. It’s a way of saying “thank you” for the time, effort, and emotional energy someone gave. Small gestures can make a big difference in a worker’s day. Generosity is always remembered.
31. Practice good hygiene.
This should be obvious, yet it can’t be said enough. Shower, brush your teeth, and arrive clean. Respect starts with basic self-care before meeting someone. It’s the foundation of a pleasant experience.
32. Don’t show up intoxicated.
Alcohol or drugs impair judgment and make encounters unsafe. No one should have to manage someone else’s recklessness. If you’ve been drinking, reschedule. It shows you value safety and respect boundaries.
33. Respect privacy.
Workers often protect their real identities for safety reasons. Don’t pry into personal details like legal names or addresses. Curiosity doesn’t entitle you to private information. Trust builds when boundaries are honored.
34. Don’t photograph without permission.
Photos can risk someone’s safety and livelihood. Never assume you can take a picture. If you’d like one, ask respectfully but be prepared for a no. Consent always comes first.
35. Respect discretion.
If you recognize a sex worker in public, don’t out them. Smile, nod, or simply walk past. Public exposure can put them at risk. Discretion keeps everyone safe.
36. Use protection always.
Condoms and other safe practices are non-negotiable. They protect both parties from health risks. Pressuring someone to skip safety measures is reckless and disrespectful. Safe sex is responsible sex.
37. Don’t assume GFE is always on the table.
The “girlfriend experience” is a specific service that not everyone offers. Don’t project expectations without asking. Respect what’s on the menu instead of assuming. Clear communication prevents disappointment.
38. Follow instructions on communication.
Many workers prefer text, email, or booking forms over calls. Respect the method they choose it’s for safety and efficiency. Ignoring those rules can get you blocked. Small things show big respect.
39. Be clear in your requests.
Ambiguity wastes time and can create misunderstandings. State what you’re looking for politely and directly. Clarity makes the whole process smoother. Respectful communication is the key to good experiences.
40. Respect boundaries if someone declines.
No means no, even in professional settings. Don’t push, don’t beg, don’t guilt-trip. Boundaries are what keep workers safe. Accepting “no” gracefully is the mark of real respect.
41. Don’t compare workers to your ex or partner.
It might seem like a harmless comment, but it reduces someone’s work to a comparison game. Nobody likes being measured against someone else, especially in such a personal context. Let the person be themselves, not an echo of someone from your past. Respect grows when you appreciate someone for who they are, not who they remind you of.
42. Understand that boundaries are part of the job.
Every professional sets limits, and this industry is no different. Boundaries aren’t obstacles; they’re essential safety measures. When someone says “this isn’t on the table,” don’t try to test them. Respecting limits shows you value both the person and the work.
43. Don’t assume intimacy equals love.
The closeness you feel in a booking may feel powerful, but it’s part of the service. Expecting romance in return places unfair pressure on the worker. Enjoy the moment for what it is without projecting beyond it. Blurring the lines can damage trust.
44. Keep communication discreet.
Don’t blow up someone’s phone with calls or texts. Respect the agreed method of contact and keep things simple. Over-communication can feel invasive or even dangerous. Less is often more in maintaining professionalism.
45. Don’t stalk online profiles.
If a worker shares a professional account, that doesn’t mean their entire online life is open to you. Searching for personal Facebooks or family Instagrams crosses a major line. Keep curiosity in check and respect the separation between public and private.
46. Accept that not everyone wants to be “friends.”
Some workers enjoy long-term clients who become friendly, others prefer clear professional distance. Don’t assume closeness is the goal. Respect the nature of the relationship they’re comfortable with. It keeps expectations realistic and healthier for everyone.
47. Leave reviews respectfully (if invited).
If you’re writing feedback on a platform, keep it professional. Don’t post identifying details or crude descriptions. Focus on what’s relevant to other clients, not sensationalism. Reviews should build trust, not cause harm.
48. Don’t pressure for off-the-clock contact.
It might feel flattering to want more time together, but it crosses into personal space. Unless someone clearly offers personal friendship, don’t push. Their free time is theirs, not yours to claim. Respect the boundary between professional and private life.
49. Don’t ask invasive family or background questions.
Someone’s family situation, upbringing, or reasons for working are private unless they choose to share. Prying into these areas can feel exploitative. A booking isn’t an interrogation. Curiosity is natural, but restraint is respectful.
50. Respect the emotional labor involved.
Sex work isn’t just physical it’s emotional. Workers often manage clients’ insecurities, moods, and needs. Recognize that this takes real energy. Don’t dismiss the invisible effort that goes into creating a safe, pleasant space for you.
51. Don’t expose workers to your friends without consent.
Bragging about who you see may feel fun for you, but it can risk someone’s safety. Sharing details without permission is a betrayal of trust. Discretion protects everyone involved. Keep private encounters private.
52. Respect if someone doesn’t want to kiss.
Kissing is intimate and not always part of the service. Don’t assume it’s included. If it matters to you, ask beforehand and accept the answer. Consent applies to every form of intimacy.
53. Don’t use demeaning nicknames.
Calling someone “baby” or “slut” without permission can feel degrading. Nicknames may be fine in a mutually agreed context, but never assume. Use the name they give you, and keep respect at the forefront.
54. Respect downtime.
Workers need rest, just like anyone else. Don’t expect constant availability. If they say they’re not working, don’t push for exceptions. Honor their need for time off.
55. Don’t assume availability during holidays.
Workers may choose to take holidays off, and that choice should be respected. Don’t pressure for bookings if someone sets boundaries around special days. Their personal life matters as much as yours.
56. Don’t fetishize identities.
Liking certain traits is fine, but don’t reduce someone to their race, gender, or body type. Fetishizing strips away humanity and turns people into objects. Appreciate without objectifying. Respect requires seeing the whole person.
57. Pay attention to verbal and non-verbal cues.
If someone seems uncomfortable, check in or back off. Ignoring discomfort creates unsafe situations. Listening with more than your ears builds trust. Respect is as much about noticing as it is about asking.
58. Don’t expect free therapy.
While emotional support is part of the work, unloading all your trauma isn’t fair without boundaries. Workers aren’t therapists, even if they’re compassionate listeners. Be mindful of balance in conversation. Care is mutual.
59. Respect when someone says “I don’t share that.”
Not every question deserves an answer. If a worker declines to discuss something, accept it. Pushing further is invasive. Boundaries are meant to be honored, not tested.
60. Understand that safety comes first.
Whether it’s screening, deposits, or specific meeting places, these measures exist for protection. Don’t argue or complain about them. A worker’s safety is non-negotiable. Supporting their right to be safe is supporting their humanity.
61. Don’t photograph or record without consent.
Taking pictures or videos might feel like a way to capture the memory, but without explicit permission it’s a huge violation. Many workers protect their privacy fiercely, and unauthorized images can put their safety at risk. Always ask first, and respect a “no” without argument.
62. Don’t pressure for unsafe practices.
If someone doesn’t offer condomless services or certain risky acts, don’t try to persuade them. These boundaries exist to protect health and safety. Respecting safer practices shows you value their wellbeing as much as your own.
63. Respect rates without bargaining.
Treat the agreed price as final. Trying to negotiate after services have been delivered is disrespectful and unfair. Pay what you agreed to, and don’t create awkward or manipulative situations. Professional respect means keeping your word.
64. Don’t demand longer time if you only paid for short.
If you’ve booked an hour, that’s the time you have. Expecting someone to stay longer for free devalues their work. Respect the time limit, and if you want more, book and pay for it properly.
65. Don’t show up intoxicated.
Alcohol or drugs can make you unpredictable or unsafe. Workers have the right to refuse service if you arrive under the influence. Being sober ensures respect, clarity, and mutual safety.
66. Respect personal space before and after.
Not every worker wants hugs, kisses, or touch outside of booked time. Don’t assume closeness beyond what was agreed. Professionalism means honoring the boundaries of the moment.
67. Don’t guilt-trip if they decline something.
Saying “but I paid for this” or “other people let me” is manipulative. Workers don’t owe you every request. If something isn’t offered, accept it with maturity. Respect grows when you don’t push against a boundary.
68. Understand screening is not negotiable.
Many professionals require ID, deposits, or references before meeting. This isn’t personal distrust—it’s necessary safety. Arguing about screening only signals you might not respect boundaries. Cooperate willingly if you want to be trusted.
69. Respect cancellation policies.
If you cancel last-minute, expect to lose a deposit or pay a fee. Just like any business, workers protect their time and income. Respecting their policy keeps things fair and professional.
70. Don’t ask for personal addresses.
Unless someone offers, never demand to know where they live. Meeting locations are carefully chosen for safety. Pushing for personal details breaks trust and can put them at risk.
71. Respect agency workers and independents equally.
Whether someone works solo or through an agency, both deserve the same respect. Don’t assume agency workers are “less” independent or that independents are “easier.” Each path has its challenges. Respect the professionalism of both.
72. Don’t treat someone as a novelty.
Workers aren’t attractions to “tick off” your list. Reducing them to curiosities dehumanizes them. See the person first, not just the label, race, or body type that drew your attention.
73. Respect mental health boundaries.
If a worker doesn’t want to hear about certain heavy topics, don’t force them. Everyone has limits to what they can hold emotionally. Honor when someone protects their own mental space.
74. Don’t assume services outside of advertising.
If something isn’t listed, don’t expect it’s available. Pressuring someone to do things they don’t advertise is disrespectful. Stick to what was agreed, and if unsure, ask politely beforehand.
75. Respect aftercare if intimacy is emotional.
Sometimes a booking brings up strong emotions. If a worker provides aftercare like a hug, a chat, or grounding that’s a gift. Don’t take it for granted, and don’t demand it if it’s not offered.
76. Don’t use workers as relationship replacements.
If you’re lonely or struggling in love, it’s okay to seek comfort but don’t project an entire relationship onto a worker. This creates pressure they didn’t consent to. Enjoy the companionship for what it is, not what you wish it to be.
77. Respect if they choose not to share contact info.
Some workers keep communication only through booking platforms or business numbers. Don’t demand their personal phone or social media. Privacy is essential, and respecting that shows maturity.
78. Don’t discuss your other bookings.
Talking about who else you’ve seen is unnecessary and awkward. It can feel disrespectful or competitive. Keep the focus on the person you’re with, not comparisons or bragging.
79. Respect that workers may not disclose real names.
Aliases are common for safety. Don’t pressure for “real names” or legal identities. If someone shares more, it’s their choice not your entitlement.
80. Don’t touch belongings without permission.
Whether it’s a bag, phone, or clothing, never grab or search through someone’s things. Personal items are private. Respecting property is part of respecting the person.
81. Respect if they don’t want kissing photos.
Some workers may allow selfies together, others don’t. Especially intimate photos can compromise safety. Never pressure for images that go beyond their comfort zone.
82. Don’t test boundaries with “just a little.”
If someone says no to something, don’t try sneaking it in halfway. Testing limits is manipulative and disrespectful. A “no” deserves to be honored fully, not negotiated in action.
83. Respect if they won’t meet at your home.
Some workers avoid private houses for safety. Don’t take it personally it’s about risk management. Accept their chosen venues without pressure.
84. Don’t assume financial desperation.
Not everyone in this field is struggling. Many choose it for autonomy, flexibility, or good pay. Assuming desperation is insulting and undermines professionalism. Treat them as capable adults, not victims.
85. Respect safer sex conversations.
If someone brings up STI testing, condoms, or protection, listen carefully. It’s about mutual health, not distrust. Respecting these discussions shows you value shared wellbeing.
86. Don’t pressure for unlisted kinks.
If a kink or fetish isn’t advertised, don’t try to slip it in. Respect the services offered. Consent applies to all play, especially the more vulnerable ones.
87. Respect grooming requests.
If a worker asks you to shower, brush your teeth, or clean up, don’t take offense. Hygiene is essential for everyone’s comfort. Taking care of yourself shows you value the experience.
88. Don’t expect social media follow-backs.
Professional accounts aren’t personal friendships. Don’t demand follows, likes, or DMs outside of agreed communication. Respect the separation between work and private life.
89. Respect if they end a booking early.
Sometimes clients cross lines, and workers may choose to stop. If this happens, accept it calmly. Learn from it instead of arguing. Safety and boundaries always come first.
90. Don’t pressure for bareback emotional intimacy.
Just like physical boundaries, emotional ones matter. Don’t demand deep confessions, life stories, or personal vulnerability if it’s not offered. Respect the balance between real connection and professional distance.
91. Respect that some workers don’t drink or use substances.
Don’t pressure someone to join you for drinks or drugs. Many choose sobriety for safety or personal reasons. Accept their choice without judgment.
92. Don’t expect constant availability online.
Workers aren’t 24/7 chatbots. Respect their digital boundaries, response times, and offline hours. Professional respect means patience.
93. Respect if they decline risky clients.
If someone feels unsafe for any reason, they may refuse service. Don’t take it personally it’s about survival. Respecting their right to say no is essential.
94. Don’t assume every worker is “broken.”
The stereotype that people enter this work because of trauma is harmful. Many come from diverse, empowered backgrounds. Don’t project pity it’s insulting.
95. Respect cultural boundaries.
Different people have different comfort zones around language, touch, or traditions. Pay attention, ask respectfully, and honor their cultural identity without exoticizing.
96. Don’t stalk outside work.
If you see someone in public, don’t approach unless they clearly acknowledge you. They may be with family or friends who don’t know. Discretion protects everyone.
97. Respect emotional detachment.
Some workers keep things light and professional. Don’t push for deeper bonds if that’s not how they work. Respect the style of intimacy they’re comfortable with.
98. Don’t exploit for free advice.
Whether about sex, dating, or personal growth, constant demands for tips cross the line. Pay for their expertise like you would any consultant. Respect their time and knowledge.
99. Respect diversity in gender and sexuality.
Not all workers are cis or straight. Respect pronouns, identities, and presentations without mockery. Inclusivity is respect in action.
100. Always remember: respect is the foundation.
At the heart of all these points is one truth respect builds safety, trust, and genuine connection. Every interaction is better when grounded in care, listening, and mutual dignity. Respect isn’t extra it’s the baseline.
