Let’s all be honest, at some point we’ve seen a porn where we’re like, “ I want to do that!’, we tell our partner, we try and it’s nothing like how it was in the porn. We’re a little disappointed, or a lot depending how bad of a fail it was and we wonder why it wasn’t like the porn. The answer to that is quite simple, really, it is. Porn isn’t real. Think of it like a play on Broadway. There’s a screenwriter, there are props, there are actors, a camera crew, the whole shebang. What is in your bedroom? You and your partner. When it comes to Adult Videos they have time to prepare, time to prep, they rehearse, there’s several cuts, it takes time to make the perfect scenes. I know that sounds like it’s totally easy, right? Wrong. A lot of actors will even say that getting paid to have sex isn’t always fun. Sometimes the poses or the angles they need are quite uncomfortable. Then there are the retakes, I remember watching a documentary that talked about how there was a take with condoms and then without them, then there was a take with no talking and then with talking. It’s quite literally nothing like what you do at home and that is perfectly okay. That’s not saying you can’t learn anything from them. Myself and my partner have admitted that we’ve both learned from watching porn. The orgasms aren’t always faked and sometimes it is fun to try and guess which are real and which aren’t, usually the surprise on her face is a dead give away, haha. Watching porn with your partner is also a good way to show your partner what you want if you’re too shy to bring it up at any other time. I’m guilty of that as well. You’d also be surprised how much it may turn on your partner for you to watch porn with them. I know that I get super shy if I get caught watching porn but I don’t mind watching it with my partner. There is also something that despite how awesome porn can be it lacks and that is the intimacy that is shared between yourself and your partner. That is what makes sex so amazing. The connection, the bond, the way you come alive when they look at you or the way they respond when you touch them. You can have the satisfaction of knowing it wasn’t rehearsed, it wasn’t practiced, and it’s not fake. (At least for most people, some people out there are not as fortunate to have that connection and have to fake it.) No one knows you like your partner if they pay attention to you and honestly care about getting you off to you happy place. In the end it’s important that you remember to have fun, to live, to laugh and to love. Do what makes you happy, whether it’s trying to copy that porno you watched last night or trying something new and never been seen before. Just keep it safe, sane and consensual.
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