Let's be brutally honest for a minute. This business isn't just about providing a service. It's a constant exercise in psychology, boundary-setting, and street-smart business sense. For every ten genuinely lovely clients, there's one who sees you not as a professional, but as a mark. They've got a bag of tricks, and their goal is simple: to get more while paying less, or nothing at all. They rely on your discomfort, your desire to be "nice," or your economic pressure to get their way.
It's not paranoid to be prepared. It's professional. Knowing these cons is your first and best line of defense. Let's pull back the curtain on the most common schemes and, more importantly, arm you with the exact scripts and strategies to protect yourself, your money, and your peace of mind.
The Financial Finessers: Tricks to Lighten Your Wallet
These guys are all about the money. Their tactics range from subtle guilt-tripping to outright theft.
1. The "Wallet Left in the Car" (or "Forgotten ATM")
The Play: The appointment goes fine. The moment arrives for the donation. He pats his pockets with a look of exaggerated panic. "Oh man, I left the envelope in the car! I'll be right back." Or the classic: "My card isn't working at this ATM, let's just start and I'll run out after."
The Goal: To start the session before payment is in your hand, banking on the awkwardness of stopping things once they've begun.
Your Defense: The Unbreakable Ritual.
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The Golden Rule: Money first. Always. No exceptions. Make this as non-negotiable as breathing.
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The Script: Smile warmly and say, "Oh, no worries at all! These things happen. I'll just get cozy while you run down and grab it. We can start the time when you get back." Say it sweetly, but position yourself comfortably, not undressed. The clock does NOT start until the donation is presented and secured.
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The Action: Have a discreet but secure place to verify and store it immediately (don't just toss it in a purse). If he balks or pressures you to "trust him," that is Red Flag #1. A legitimate client understands and respects the protocol.
2. The Short-Changer & The "Exact Change" Artist
The Play: He hands you an envelope or cash. It feels light, or he claims it's all there. Sometimes, they'll use a big bill on top with smaller ones underneath, or say "It's all I have, it's exact change, sorry!"
The Goal: To hope you're too polite to count it in front of him, or to pressure you into accepting less under the guise of it being an "honest mistake."
Your Defense: The Polite, Professional Audit.
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Count it. Every time. In front of him. Do it with a calm smile. "Just let me make sure we're all square, darling!" is a perfectly professional thing to say.
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The Script for Shortfalls: If it's short, stop. Your smile stays, but your voice gets firm. "It looks like we're [amount] short. Did you maybe leave a couple bills in your wallet by accident?" Give him an out. If he plays dumb or gets angry, the session is over. "I'm sorry, but my time is reserved at the agreed-upon rate. We'll have to reschedule for when you have the correct amount." Then, show him the door. Do not negotiate.
3. The Marathon Man & The Overtime Moocher
The Play: He books a shorter session (e.g., one hour) but employs every tactic to drag it out: endless chatting, painfully slow actions, "just one more thing" requests when time is clearly up.
The Goal: To get the experience of a longer appointment without paying for it.
Your Defense: The Timekeeper-in-Chief.
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Set the Expectation Early: "Just so you know, I've got a hard out at [time], but I'm so looking forward to our hour together!" Mention it lightly at the start.
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The Graceful Warning: About 10-15 minutes before the end, give a gentle, sexy warning. "Baby, we've got about 15 minutes left. Let's make the most of it." This isn't rude; it's professional and ensures a satisfying conclusion for both.
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The Hard Stop: When time is up, it's up. "Wow, that hour just flew by! It was wonderful meeting you." Start moving towards getting dressed or the door. If he wants more, the answer is, "I'd love that! My rate for an additional half-hour is [amount]. Would you like me to send you my booking link for next time?"
The Boundary Pushers: Tricks to Erode Your Limits
These clients attack your rules and try to normalize what's not on the menu.
1. The "But With My Last Girl..." Comparison
The Play: "My usual provider always does XYZ for me." Or, "I've never had to pay a deposit before."
The Goal: To make you feel inexperienced, competitive, or like you're being unreasonable. It's a manipulation to get you to lower your standards.
Your Defense: The Unshakable Policy.
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Your Script: A calm, confident smile. "That's lovely for her! We all run our businesses a little differently. My policy is [repeat your policy clearly]." Do not apologize. Do not justify. You are stating a fact about your business, not debating his anecdote.
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Reframe It: This is an excellent screening tool. A client who argues about your clearly stated policies before meeting is telling you he will argue about your boundaries during the session.
3: The "Just This Once" & The Whispered Request
The Play: In the middle of things, he whispers a request for something you've clearly stated you don't offer. Or he physically guides you towards an act that's off-limits.
The Goal: To catch you off guard, in a vulnerable moment, hoping you'll concede to avoid conflict.
Your Defense: The Immediate, Clear "No."
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Practice Your No: It can be gentle but firm. "Ah, ah, ah... we don't do that, remember?" or "Mmm, I don't go there, but I can do this..." and redirect to something you are comfortable with.
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The Physical Stop: If it's a physical push of boundaries, stop all activity immediately. Sit up or create space. "I need you to stop. That is not okay with me." Your safety is non-negotiable. A good client will apologize immediately. One who argues is dangerous.
The Digital Scammers & Emotional Manipulators
These tricks happen before you even meet, or aim to create a dependency.
1. The Sob Story & The "I'm Broke But..."
The Play: An elaborate story about lost jobs, sick pets, or just being down on his luck. "Can you see me for less? I promise I'll make it up to you next time!" Or the classic "I can be your regular if you give me a discount today."
The Goal: To exploit your empathy and get a discount for a service he can't afford.
Your Defense: Separate Business from Charity.
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Your Script: "I'm so sorry to hear you're going through a tough time. That sounds really hard. Unfortunately, my rates are fixed to maintain the quality and discretion of my service. I'd be happy to see you when your situation improves." You are not a therapist or a charity. A real "regular" values you enough to pay your full rate from the start.
2. The Blackmail Threat ("I'll Expose You")
The Play: After a session (or sometimes instead of one), a message arrives: "Pay me X amount or I'll send these screenshots/your ad to your family/work."
The Goal: Pure extortion, relying on your fear.
Your Defense: DO NOT ENGAGE. DO NOT PAY.
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Step 1: Screenshot everything. Save all communications.
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Step 2: Block him on every platform immediately. Do not respond with a single word. Any response, even anger, tells him he's gotten to you.
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Step 3: Report his profile to the platform where he contacted you.
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Crucial Note: These predators are counting on panic. They almost never follow through because it creates a digital trail back to them for the serious crime of extortion. Paying them guarantees they will come back for more. Starve them of any reaction.
Your Ultimate Defense Toolkit: The Non-Negotiables
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Screening is Everything: A deposit isn't just about securing your time; it's the first filter. Clients who won't follow a simple screening or deposit procedure are telling you they don't respect your business rules.
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Trust Your Gut: That nagging feeling in your stomach? That's your professional intuition. If something feels "off," it is. You have the absolute right to cancel an appointment at any time, for any reason. "I no longer feel we are a good match" is a complete sentence.
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Community Intelligence: Use private networks (forums, trusted groups) to warn others about bad actors. Sharing info like phone numbers, emails, or descriptions of scams protects everyone.
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Professional Distance: You can be warm, engaging, and fantastic at your job without becoming emotionally entangled. This is a transaction. A pleasant, satisfying one, but a transaction nonetheless. Protecting your emotional energy is just as important as protecting your physical safety.
The men who run these cons are not stupid. They are calculated. They have practiced. Your power lies in being more prepared, more professional, and more unwavering than they are calculated. By knowing their playbook, you take away their greatest weapon: your surprise. Your boundaries, clearly communicated and firmly held, are the shield that turns a would-be trickster into just another time-waster you elegantly avoided. Now go get your bag safely and on your terms.
