Q: What are your turn-offs?
A: •Being chosen for My looks, not My skills, knowledge, experience, vibes, and personality.
•Approaching Me with “Hi how are you” type of filler-messages, or, worse, with “available now?” type of demonstrations of your lack of reading comprehension, instead of reading My profile and sending Me properly filled instruction for booking My time.
•Calling Me “baby”, “sweetie”, or other stupid, disgusting, infantilising nicknames. It’s strictly “Madam Lira” or “Lira”, not some infantilising bullshit.
•Asking for things that are clearly stated as ones I DO NOT DO – CIM/deepthroating/ swallowing/penetrative sex without condom/licking anyone’s ass/anal to Me/copro/submission to a man; and not demonstrating genuine regret&apology after being pointed out the certain part on My profile, that you missed. Especially if instead of apology you dare to demonstrate your lack of understanding of the concept of CONSENT by attempts to persuade Me into the certain thing. “No” is “No”, not invitation to haggle!!!
•Last minute booking attempts, last minute cancellations, attempts to rush Me to answer you, bargaining for free photos or lower rates, lack of good hygiene, and other types of disrespect towards Me and My time.
•Phone calls, asking for photos, videos, voice notes, asking million questions, stretching out the booking process, or otherwise wasting My time
•Any sort of disparaging or passive-agressive comments about Me or to My direction.
•Vulgarity, rudeness, arrogance, superficiality, and objectification of any kind.
Q: What is the strangest request you have ever had from a client?
A: In My opinion, there are no “strange” requests, only “not appropriate” requests. Requests that scream – “I haven’t read your profile”/“I don’t know how to read the room and behave accordingly”
Types of not appropriate requests:
•Asking for a Femdom session, and then asking for things like cunilingus or sex within that session. Dommes don’t fuck their subs, and subs aren’t worthy of the privilege to see, or, even more ridiculous – touch, their Domme’s private parts.
•Asking Me, a clearly Dominant leaning escort, if I would be up to be submissive with you/suggesting submissive activities, like “can you be handcuffed during the meeting?”.
•Asking Me for anything from the “I DO NOT DO:” list –CIM/deepthroating/ swallowing/penetrative sex without condom/licking anyone’s ass/anal to Me/copro/submission to a man
Q: What types of clients do you deny to meet? Are there any restrictions?
A: Ones that clearly haven’t read My profile and/or doesn’t respect the things said on it. Anyone who does any of the things in the turn-off section, and then, when called out, instead of apologising and doing better, dares to be rude or diminish My boundaries in regards to that. That’s something that immediately prompts instant block and blacklist on sites and in all local escort and Dominatrix group chats.
Q: What are your dreams, future goals and aspirations? Short and long term?
A: I prefer to have plans, not dreams. And I prefer to keep them private, until fulfilled.
Instead, I can share some previous plans, goals, and aspirations, that now are fulfilled – running a personal bdsm studio; learning horseriding; starting to study sexology; having a job within which I could contribute to people’s SexEd level getting better; [more to come, as I’ll fulfill the current ones. Stay tuned!)].
Q: Do you ever get nervous before meeting a client? Is it kind of like preparing for a first date?
A: Nope, I usually don’t get nervous. Not before first dates, and certainly not before sexual meetings/Femdom sessions. I’m fairly good at comforting nervous clients, thought.
Q: How do you prefer a client to make an appointment? What information is important for you? Is screening required before the appointment?
A: They must read My profile, text me the meeting type, day and time they’re interested in, and preferrably the name of the site and some info about themselves.
And, if it’s a Femdom session, highlight as I instructed the things on the list I send them after they picked a Femdom session.
That’s all information that’s important to Me. No random fantasies, no discussions about details – that all happens upon meeting within the paid time. If you really wanna inform me about something, keep it short, preferrably within one message, and don’t expect Me to give you a detailed answer to it. There’s no specific screening, like – “send me your photo and ID photo”. My screening is – I evaluate the behaviour at each step of appointment making process and the meeting, and I’m good at it.
Q: If a client decided to make you a present, what would you be happy to receive? What is your wish-list (maybe flowers, lingerie, parfume, music albums, books etc.)?
A: I loooove:
•Good red wine(preferrably, Argentinian, Italian, or French.)
•Quality lingerie(I like Honey Birdette, for example. But only the Dominant looking collections, not the ones in pink, frills, and advertised for dressing sub girls in.)
•Creative bdsm devices from other countries
•Quality cherry-flavoured perfumes
•Gift cards for various stores and experiences(especially bookstores – I spend insane amounts of money there)
•Stuff for creative makeup(glitters, makeup palettes with bright colours, stage makeup equipment sets, etc, etc.),
•If you have the means to do so, and reeeally wanna contribute to some of my future plans and aspirations – quality filming equipment.
I will certainly appreciate all of those things, and the considerate people deciding to make Me happy by gifting them to Me)
Q: How do you handle first-timers or those who have limited experience with escort services? What are your suggestions to such clients to make your encounter the most enjoyable?
A: Intimacy guidance for virgins is quite literally one of My specialisations, aka – the meeting types listed on My profile to choose from.
As long as they read My profile, follow the instruction for booking My time, written on My profile, and adhere to the basic rules and guidelines provided on My profile, the negotiation process will be elementar even for absolute newbie, and the encounter will be amazing.
Q: How often do you work per week?
A: 1-5 times, depending on the week. I am very selective in regards to who I meet, and I meet maximum one person/couple/group per day, or, in exceptional cases, two, if one of them scheduled in advance, and the other one wrote Me the day of, can do only the certain day coz leaves the country the next morning, and managed to interest Me.
Q: Do you have a list of clients that you see regularly that you have formed a special bond with? Would you feel 'cheated' if they saw another girl like how hairdressers get mad at you if you get your hair cut somewhere else?
A: I have some people I’m meeting multiple times, but generally, I’m NOT looking for repeat regular customers, at least for sexual meetings. The beauty of this for Me is in meeting various different people, and, frankly – not getting bored from one and the same body doing one and the same activities and reactions. So unless someone has a very interesting case that requires working in intimacy guidance option on it within multiple meetings, and they’re able to not get too attached to Me in process of that, or unless someone’s choosing a Femdom session, the next time I’m looking forward to see them, is after at least half a year. And I won’t feel “cheated”. If it’s any of the sexual options that aren’t intimacy guidance, I won’t feel anything about it, and if it’s intimacy guidance, then I’ll feel honored that the meeting with Me gave them knowledge, skills and/or confidence, that they’re now using to successfully meet someone else.
Q: How did you get into the escort business?
A: I was on Tinder, trying out dating, and slowly realising that with My level of sexology knowledge, kink education, and emotional intelligence, the people I’m dating are universally benefitting from those relationships more, than I’m benefitting from them, even in early stages of dating.
And I loved people getting something valuable out of meetings with Me, but I was also having a job, as well as already interesting and busy life, so, squeezing in there bunch of dates to (possibly, but unlikely) find someone, meetings with whom would benefit Me as much as meetings with Me benefit them, haven’t seemed like a reasonable way to spend My time and energy, even if I liked to see people grow and learn new things under My guidance. So I decided – why not to free My time by getting rid of the job AND the dating altogether, and instead meet with people for money only, and have them benefit from meetings with Me not for free, but – in exchange for money? That’s how intimacy guidance meetings were born.
Q: What's the best bit about being an escort?
A: Being paid for My time spent on people. But I don’t attribute it to “being an escort” – it’s just the most convenient available way to establish to people the natural order of My time, skills, knowledge, and effort spent on forging intimate bonds with people, being fairly compensated. I consider it so that all people who are more emotionally intelligent and educated in SexEd and relationships than most people, should charge for relationships with them, not keep on benefitting everyone around them for free without getting much in return.
Q: What don't you like about being an escort?
A: People demonstrating their illiteracy, when they try to text to negotiate a meeting. But that’s just the curse of any job that involves dealing with people.
Q: How long have you been working as an escort?
A: Around 3 years.
Q: Has being an escort changed your view of men?
A: No.
Q: What did you want to be when you were growing up?
A: It was changing a lot, but I always knew I want to work with people.
