Q:Do you have a list of clients that you see regularly that you have formed a special bond with? Would you feel 'cheated' if they saw another girl like how hairdressers get mad at you if you get your hair cut somewhere else?
A:I love regulars, but I would never feel cheated with them seeing someone else. After all, don't I have many people I care about in my life? I don't think it's competition either, you probably don't get your hair cut very often, and maybe some people don't have the budget to see a lot of escorts at once, but we're all a community and recommending friends has always come back to me with recommendations as well. People want so many different things out of life and it would be delusional of me to think I can offer all of them - but I can help them find all of them by being a good member of the community. So I value that!
Q:How do you handle first-timers or those who have limited experience with escort services? What are your suggestions to such clients to make your encounter the most enjoyable?
A:I love meeting people new, because I believe life is a constant exploration and exploring together is the best way to enjoy it. I think they should remember to not be too explicit in messages, but to feel free asking questions of me in email to make sure they're comfortable. I've got an FAQ on my site too, that might answer some of their questions.
Q:What makes you notable among other providers? What exactly, you believe, you're good at? What makes your service unique? What is your favorite kind of service?
A:I don't know very many AMAB Non-Binary providers who advertise as such, but I think it's easier for me to be who I am, even if that doesn't fit into a box. And I've been excited to find that many people are looking for someone just like me. Also, I think I like a lot of things that are geared more towards intimacy than action - and I believe intimacy brings the best action! I like to make sure people feel cared for in more ways than the base physical.
Q:How do you prefer a client to make an appointment? What information is important for you? Is screening required before the appointment?
A:Email is best, I love staying very organized in my email. I love it when I get a full set of screening info (Name, phone number, work info like a linkedin link, provider references to email) but I work with people to make sure we're both comfortable. Sending the full set is really the best bet! My main email is YourAshleyLake@gmail.com.
Q:Do you ever get nervous before meeting a client? Is it kind of like preparing for a first date?
A:Oh totally! I mean, sometimes I'm cool as a cucumber for some reason, just feel very happy with how they message or something, but even then there's often that excitement. Even meeting some regulars!
Q:What sort of personality qualities does someone need to possess to be a successful escort?
A:Ability to listen, ability to be understanding. I know successful escorts in so many different genres of work, with so many different body types. I think one thing that unites them all is the ability to connect with others and understand their needs.
Q:If someone wished to become an escort, how would you recommend they go about it?
A:There are plenty of blogs and entire books out there on the subject, and I suppose you could follow some people you were interested in on twitter. But honestly, one of the beauties of this work is you can just do it when you want to - but keep your safety in mind too! Talk to other escorts about how to screen and so on.
Q:What are your dreams, future goals and aspirations? Short and long term?
A:I love my life right now and probably my biggest dream is to sustain it, enjoy my apartment on the park, catch up on all my reading. Maybe add a little more travel, though!
Q:What types of clients do you deny to meet? Are there any restrictions?
A:If someone is needlessly rude in messaging, has been marked as unsafe somewhere, is explicit to a degree that seems unsafe in messaging - honestly, I'm lucky enough to be more picky than many, and I do consider my safety strongly when meeting with someone.
Q:What is the strangest request you have ever had from a client?
A:Again, don't think it would be polite to kiss and tell. Probably it would be recognizable and I don't believe anyone should be shamed for their harmless curiosity.
Q:Can you tell us a bit about your first escort job?
A:I don't feel it's so polite to kiss and tell.
Q:What did you want to be when you were growing up?
A:Probably some sort of mythical creature lol. Oh, you mean while I WAS growing up? haha. Well, I started taking photography courses in high school, and I still take pictures professionally! It's always gonna be part of my life.
Q:Has being an escort changed your view of men?
A:I think having interacted with more men over time than I might have otherwise, and intimately, I've actually been a little surprised to learn how many really are looking for a sort of intimacy that isn't often directly marketed to them. Many men are looking for kindness, understanding, and the kind of caring that may involve more gentleness than you'd expect. I've been surprised by this, but enjoy that kind of connection very much!
Q:How long have you been working as an escort?
A:You know, a bit.. hehe
Q:How did you get into the escort business?
A:You know, I couldn't tell you the exact moment I realized I'd gone pro, but I started considering myself an escort professionally well after being involved in aspects of work and the community.
Q:What's the best bit about being an escort?
A:I love meeting new people and learning about what makes them tick. Everyone's got passions and it's exciting to coax them out.
Q:What don't you like about being an escort?
A:The stigma in society, I think it's a job and some people love it and others don't, but no one should be looked down on for it.
Q:How often do you work per week?
A:I like to keep a lot of flexibility in my schedule.
Q:What are your turn-offs?
A:Probably when people don't listen, are pushy about clear boundaries, or are particularly rude.
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