I am complicated and diverse. I treasure human connection, and I adore the senses. From your ears to your arms, the slightest brush, the softest touch can be intoxicating, every look can fuel the hottest fires. I am in love with the human connection of love and enchanted by individuality. The power to be another person’s shelter--to listen to, comfort, and soothe mind, body and soul alike. I love those moments when you are so melded with another person--when all pretenses are dropped and each is vulnerable to another—that you are as one, being real, being open and human, locked eyes, soft touch, hearts racing, anticipating connection to the serene oasis.
I was born in Ohio, and I will always love the Fall the scent in the air that only comes when it’s about to snow. I still feel the crisp touch of cold morning air against my face, or the warm connection with nature as I hang with a group of friends or just my lover, deep in the woods, away from the commotion and noise of “the real world.” Around a campfire on a cold autumn night, snuggled together for warmth, for closeness, to become one, there I found a connection to the serene oasis.
So, too, did I find my connection in Florida. I moved here in my teens. I relished the warmth of the tropical sun, the warm breezes, soft sand between my toes, the waves’ constant rhythm, the sensual ebb and flow, ceaselessly against the sand. Hand in hand, or in blissful solitude, I treasured this place, the harmony of all things sensual, as I found connection to the serene oasis.
Here, against this backdrop, a different level of sensuality opened inside of me. The awkward fumblings and insecurities were replaced with a confidence, this knowledge that I knew what I need from another, and that I can provide what they need.
My first relationship was with a married man. Some would call it scandalous, of course, but it wasn’t that way. It was a chance for me to share what I had to offer, my gifts for caring, feeling, sharing and healing with those who need it. From him and others, I learned how to help them escape, and in return they helped me learn and grow, to realize my power as a woman. This first relationship taught me the heightened appeal for him. The lack of everyday obligation and expectation lent a certain excitement that transcended it being “an affair.” It was deliciously seductive, secret, forbidden, a connection to the serene oasis.
As much as I crave physical stimulation, my mind yearns for knowledge. From college classrooms, I have immersed myself in philosophy, religion, history, and literature. I have been to college multiple times and audited courses, fueling my love of learning. From Terrence Mckenna, Alan Watts, and Eckhart Tolle to Eddie Izzard, George Carlin, and Bill Hicks, I’ve sought wisdom wherever it could be found. In Robert Heinlein’s “Stranger in a Strange Land,” I found a world that captured my spirit and imagination, a world I revisit every year. Just as I found sensual pleasure in both cold northern nights and soft tropical days, so too have I found my mind stimulated by great writers and thinkers. Reading, learning, exchanging thoughts and ideas with somebody, for me this is yet another connection to the serene oasis.
I am attracted to intelligence, respect, and good conversation. I love to cook and I enjoy baking most of all. I like all types of music from hip-hop to country, to an old love song you can slow dance to in your living room. I grew up listening to the Beatles, Jimi Hendrix and the Grateful Dead. I love plays and musicals, as well as the fine arts—especially pieces that show multiple emotions, like Rodin’s “The Wench.”
I love to travel, be it a spontaneous road trip with a friend to an elaborately planned vacation to an exotic locale, I welcome any journey.
In another person, I treasure honesty and intimacy from the start, as we progress to other levels. Relationship dynamics can be simultaneously wonderful and complicated, but the best way to make it work is through communication. Respectful, honest communication is the foundation of true connection. I can come off as blunt on occasion, and while this may be off-putting to some, my brand of honesty is rare and many find it refreshing. Life is too short for useless lies and wasted words. It gets in the way of living.
I am champion of the bed sheets and defender of the pillows. My motto is simple: Keep it funny, keep it real, and always keep it moving. In other words, enjoy, be open, and never stagnate.
Communicate. Respect. Be real. These are crucial.
I require communication. I require respect. I require sincerity. Life is about learning and growing. I want to learn and grow. I want to explore the sensual, loving side of life.
And I want to share it with you.